Dr. Ni'cola Mitchell...Life's Circumstances to Success
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Speaker 1:Welcome to All Talk from PC Sports. My name is Shane Debonic, man.
Speaker 2:I'm Abdul Shamsien, and we're here with doctor Mitchell. Yes. I said that right?
Speaker 4:Yes. Yes,
Speaker 2:ma'am. So, doctor Mitchell, where are you from originally?
Speaker 4:I was born in Jamaica.
Speaker 2:Oh. Yeah. So how long were you in Jamaica before you came to the States?
Speaker 4:I came to America when I was 9 years old.
Speaker 2:Okay. Okay. And you moved to Georgia or
Speaker 4:Las Vegas. Oh, Vegas. New York first then Vegas.
Speaker 2:Oh, yeah. New York. New York in the house.
Speaker 1:You also come to New York first.
Speaker 2:Yeah. New York New York. So, what do you do? What what's explain to everybody what what what kind of doctor you are. What do you do?
Speaker 4:So my name is doctor Nicola Mitchell. I am a national best selling writer. I have 25 books. I've helped over a 1000 authors put their books out. I have a nonprofit for girls, ages 9 through 17.
Speaker 4:We service 46,000 girls worldwide. Oh. We take girls rested from the sex trade, girls in foster care, girls in group homes. We put them with girls from a better circumstance. We use almost like the d nine, format.
Speaker 4:When they come in, they're all become sisters. Mhmm. Nobody judges your background. And we let them have fun, and we're subliminally teach them at the same time. We, focus on STEM, on human trafficking awareness, literacy, financial literacy.
Speaker 4:We just had a cohort yesterday with Chase Bank, here. So I I let them have fun, but we're subliminally teach them
Speaker 2:at the same time. And I also have
Speaker 4:a movie about my life on Lifetime. It's called Giving Hope, the Nicola Mitchell story. And I'm the executive producer for that.
Speaker 2:Excuse me. Run it run it down. Run it down. So question.
Speaker 4:Yes, sir.
Speaker 2:What led you to servicing the youth like that?
Speaker 4:So I was one of those girls when I came to America. My mother was already here. So I had to, like and she had me kinda late in life. She has a I have a lot of siblings. And the one above me is 10 years older than me.
Speaker 4:Mhmm. So one by the time I came here, she's been alone for so long. And then now she had to be recalibrated of being a parent. I was really left alone to fend off fend for myself. And I was super quiet.
Speaker 4:I moved to Vegas, and there wasn't really a huge Caribbean population.
Speaker 3:Mhmm.
Speaker 4:And, so then, you know, they I was bullied a lot. It was just really crazy. And because I look different. I have curly hair and brown skin. They didn't understand the accent and stuff.
Speaker 4:So, predators prey on you. Right? Right. I was raped the first time in church. I was 14 by my choir director.
Speaker 2:Crazy.
Speaker 4:I was raped a couple more times after that. In the midst of it, I end up having my daughter 5 days after my 15th birthday and, my second daughter in 19. And I think I say all this to say that is the reason why that demographic of girls are who I focus on.
Speaker 3:Mhmm.
Speaker 4:Because a lot of times too, people kids act out. When things happen, you know, there's always that bad kid, boy, girl, whomever. Right?
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:I was the angry one. If somebody was messing with you, I'm a come fight for you. Right? I I was the angry one.
Speaker 2:Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 4:So that anger was because of what happened to me.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 4:And I think if we can figure out what is wrong with those girls, like, what the root of the problem is Trigger. Then we can re, fragment them and figure out how we can get them on the right path.
Speaker 2:Recalibrate them. Yeah. Yeah. Right. That that has to be I mean, I can't it's super tough.
Speaker 2:No. You know, to deal with men men especially mentally. Yeah. You know, because people need got you you you need therapy after that. Yeah.
Speaker 2:Most people need therapy after that. My sister was went through that growing up. Mhmm. She's younger than me. But so I never had to deal with that, you know, but, you know, you know, just the stuff that the tribulations that people go through, we overlook.
Speaker 2:Right. Or we say, oh, EBI. Oh, you you be alright. Oh, you get over it. And it's not that simple.
Speaker 3:Mhmm.
Speaker 2:You know? So, thankfully, you have somebody like yourself who's out there advocating and, you know, and not afraid to be transparent and let people know what you've been through. Yeah. And whether they can identify and, you know, help them move forward in life and create opportunities for them. So that's very good.
Speaker 1:And Very good.
Speaker 4:Appreciate you saying that.
Speaker 1:And thank you for saying that. So, like, how do you help young ladies who go through the same thing when they have, like, a parent or someone who they can't talk to. Because a lot of times, ladies, when they get raped, they don't wanna tell I don't wanna tell my mother. It could be her boyfriend. I don't wanna tell dad is my uncle.
Speaker 1:Like and that's hard for me.
Speaker 2:The parent themselves.
Speaker 1:And it could be the parent themselves. So, man
Speaker 4:How do you get through that?
Speaker 1:Oh my goodness. Yes. I came to ask the question. How do you get through that? That's the
Speaker 4:same way I just came and introduced myself. Yeah. Well, when the event starts, we have DJs. We have performers. It's, like, real high energy.
Speaker 4:So they don't even know what is a lot of them, if they never been here, they don't know what to expect. Right? And then I come in. I try to be as cute as I can. You know, we have celebrities, whomever in there.
Speaker 4:I try to make sure my shoe game is on point. Something that's going to bring them into me. Right? You dance with them. You do all these things.
Speaker 4:And then they introduce me. They read this long ass bio that's like
Speaker 1:I heard it.
Speaker 4:That's all these things. Right?
Speaker 1:I heard the bio.
Speaker 4:Yes. And and then after you knock out Forbes, Black Enterprise, Okay. I was raped. You know, I was this. My mother left.
Speaker 4:I met
Speaker 2:her. No. Everybody's in shock.
Speaker 1:And so Yeah.
Speaker 4:When you say these things, I have 2 children that are dead. I'm a cancer survivor. When you break that down, I even have grown women that be in here telling you what happened to them. Right? Mhmm.
Speaker 4:And in the beginning, when we first started Girls Soup Ranch, it was a fishbowl setting. So we would have them write anonymous questions down.
Speaker 3:Mhmm. And
Speaker 4:they will walk around and pick up the questions. And those questions would go from, how did you start your business? To, my mother said I was a mistake? To, what if it's my, like you said, a family member?
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 4:I've he had girls in group homes that said that, oh, the boys all come at me at nighttime. I don't know how to protect myself. Right? So you you don't know who actually is the one who gave the asked the question. But now, the other rule of the panelist in the room is you have to be vulnerable.
Speaker 4:We are not Beyonce. We did not just wake up like this.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 4:We have to tell the truth how we got here. And so, usually, one of those questions relate to somebody on this panel. Mhmm. And and if they don't, I will pull it back in. Right?
Speaker 4:And it's, like, it's so therapeutic for me because I went to therapy at 33. I started writing books at 27, and I was starting to become a public speaker, but I never acknowledged the stuff that happened to me. So it wasn't till I was in therapy that I start forgiving myself and the people that hurt me. And now so by the time fast forward, the organization started, I was really prepared to be able to now because I'm a life coach now too
Speaker 3:Right.
Speaker 4:To be able to not only tell my story, but also counsel them within counseling myself.
Speaker 1:Right. Got you.
Speaker 4:Yes, sir.
Speaker 2:Good stuff. Good. Good. Oh, and that that's it's a a true perceived perseverance. Mhmm.
Speaker 2:Because you could've gave up a million times over
Speaker 4:I did.
Speaker 2:Before you get to this level.
Speaker 4:I did.
Speaker 2:Right? And and fought through it and fought through it and fought through it. Mhmm. So I I love stories like this because the underdog.
Speaker 4:Yes. The
Speaker 2:one you least expect.
Speaker 4:Yes.
Speaker 2:You know, people don't have an affinity for that. You know, I was bullied growing up because I was tall and skinny. Mhmm. And then my mom when I was 11 years old, my mom and a Muslim guy, we became Muslim. But for me, it was culture shock because now I have to wear a kufi, a dashiki, and everybody's laughing at you like, oh, look at him.
Speaker 2:You're African or you're Haitian or something like that. Mhmm. And your parents don't understand. Yeah. I can't go to class like this.
Speaker 2:They gonna laugh at me. So now you you in classroom or you your clothes are crazy. You're trying to hide clothes under the stairs. You can change and go to school and come back. Because they don't understand bullying changes your life.
Speaker 4:Mhmm. Lord.
Speaker 2:But luckily for me, like you said, bullying, or anything that'll fire under me and I got good at basketball and that was my route and luck god thank god I was very good at what I did and I was gonna be a NBA draft pick and play overseas and stuff, but that's one of the million.
Speaker 4:Right. Right.
Speaker 2:You know? And so I'm I'm always a advocate for the underdog, and I I can't I hate bullies. And then to hear what you've been through is just it's crazy because you know how the perseverance for that is the hardest to deal with that. Mhmm. And look in the mirror every day.
Speaker 2:Right. You know?
Speaker 4:Somebody to see you.
Speaker 2:Yeah. Mhmm.
Speaker 4:My mentor has seen me. I was actually in a facility, a jail facility. I was bullied. They jumped me when I was pregnant with my daughter. And so, you know, I lived in the hood.
Speaker 4:You couldn't go back to school till you fought everybody. Right?
Speaker 2:That's okay.
Speaker 4:You gotta start with the biggest one. Right?
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:Fuck the biggest one. That was the scariest thing in my life too. Right? And I beat her up. Okay.
Speaker 4:Cool. I won. So you went down the line. So by the time I got to the last one, it she had a weapon. It was all these things.
Speaker 4:I end up going to a a detention center.
Speaker 2:You for now?
Speaker 4:Mhmm. And so but once I and I'm a I'm a immigrant. So this is how why when people also say, why do I do this? I'm like, god had Had that angel wrapped around me so long ago that I never even paid attention to because I should went in this way Mhmm. And be processed.
Speaker 4:I went the other way that they would put me through a trial by peers program, and my mentor was there. And so I never got a real charge. And he's seen something in me. He was like, oh, you speak well. Because I used to practice to sound American.
Speaker 4:Right?
Speaker 1:Right. Right.
Speaker 4:So now I speak like a white girl.
Speaker 1:Yeah. So he was like he was
Speaker 4:like, you need to we're gonna put you in some oratory training. And I just did not understand why this man has so much love for me. And then I was thinking, oh, he's trying to hurt me too. Mhmm.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 4:But he didn't.
Speaker 2:Because that was a huge hit.
Speaker 4:Exactly. And he was over the upper bound program. He put me in upper bound. He just he he he sowed seeds into me until last year when he died.
Speaker 2:Mhmm. But he saw he saw something in you. That's what I was. He cultivated it.
Speaker 4:My neck. So I think that's what I do with these girls. Mhmm. I stay on their neck. I'm like, okay.
Speaker 4:You're shy. We're gonna get it out of you. Right. You're this. We're gonna get it out of you.
Speaker 4:What do you wanna do? Once we get this point, okay, what do you wanna do next? Mhmm. Okay. And I don't just tell them what to do.
Speaker 4:I'm walking them through. I'm talking to them. We're texting. I'm like, hey. I don't wanna talk to your mom.
Speaker 4:Mhmm. I want the conversation with me and you.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 4:You know? And I think that feeling safe, I try to give that back to my kids because that's what doc gave me. And the biggest gift I could have given him was the movie. That was my love story to him that my mentor got me through this.
Speaker 2:Wow.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So question, when so how does the movie come about? And when was it when was it?
Speaker 4:It came out last year.
Speaker 2:Okay. Oh, that's awesome. So it's on a lifetime channel?
Speaker 4:Lifetime channel.
Speaker 2:And it's called what?
Speaker 4:Giving Hope, the Nicola Mitchell story. Okay. Tatiana Ali from the Fresh Prince, she plays me.
Speaker 1:Okay. Wow. That's awesome.
Speaker 4:And, it came from I would I'd be I won the L'Oreal Paris Woman of Worth Award, in 2019. Mhmm. And
Speaker 1:Congratulations on that.
Speaker 4:You. Mhmm. And, you know, they were like, what media you wanna do? So I'm like, the Breakfast club. You know?
Speaker 2:Yeah. All all the pop and stuff. Stuff. Right?
Speaker 4:They got me on Reader's Digest.
Speaker 1:I was so disgusted.
Speaker 2:We can't digest.
Speaker 1:That's what all white people. Right? And
Speaker 4:so I'm
Speaker 1:like, that's what
Speaker 4:you picked for me. I'm looking at my cohorts. They had, like, there Vanity. They had all these different places. Essence?
Speaker 4:Yeah. Yeah. No. It wasn't Essence. They put they put us well, no.
Speaker 4:I'm lying. Essence did. I was in Essence. I'm still every year, my video is on s is on Essence Magazine when they're recruiting for the new set of cohorts. Mhmm.
Speaker 4:So but it wasn't that feature. And I'm like, dang. Reader's Digest? But Reader's Digest is where and I was talking about my mentor, the same conversation
Speaker 3:Mhmm.
Speaker 4:And they fell in love with it that they did a second article
Speaker 3:Mhmm.
Speaker 4:On me and him. And then Reader's Digest, like any other imprint, will remove the article and then refurbish it like it's new.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:So the producer from Lifetime, she get all her content from stories on Reader's Digest.
Speaker 2:Gotcha. See how things work?
Speaker 1:Got you.
Speaker 4:She found it there, thought it was fresh, and started tracking me down on social media.
Speaker 1:See, that's awesome.
Speaker 2:So what's crazy is people understand Reader's Digest is everywhere.
Speaker 1:Everywhere.
Speaker 2:And if anybody of importance as far as culture and stuff of of reporting or or even that side, which is okay, they it's on their front it's on their desk.
Speaker 1:Yeah. It's in
Speaker 2:their subscription. That's what they do. And this will happen that she's reading that. So I like that story. And Mhmm.
Speaker 2:So we decided this was the best thing for you at the moment.
Speaker 4:Yes. It was. And it tracked me down. Like, it was so funny. And to anybody listening, I know they say do not communicate with people who do not have a profile picture.
Speaker 4:That lady did not have a profile picture. She was on Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, all kind of things, and I thought it was spam.
Speaker 1:Right. Right.
Speaker 3:Mhmm.
Speaker 2:Well, I would
Speaker 1:have thought it was too. Yeah. So, doctor Mitchell
Speaker 4:Yes, Kim.
Speaker 1:Approximately, how many young ladies have you helped 46,000. 46,000. You heard that. Right? 46,000.
Speaker 4:A little bit more now because it's we just did a lot another event.
Speaker 1:That's so awesome. And what are the age groups that you mentor from what time what age to what age? Or do you men do you mentor anybody?
Speaker 4:So it was supposed to be on paper 9 to 17. Right?
Speaker 1:Got you.
Speaker 4:My youngest is about 3 years old.
Speaker 1:Wow.
Speaker 4:And my oldest my alumnis are 26 now, 27 because my daughter my youngest daughter is 26. Mhmm. So that group is about that age group now, and I still deal with all of them.
Speaker 1:So do you mentor, like, daughters and mothers or just 1 or 2 or, like, of grandparents? Like, do you have, like, a mentorship for, like, a family who all these ladies need my help? Because I know you deal with so much people, and everybody's going through everything, you know, with mental mental illness and everything else. So do you actually Yes. Like oh, that's crazy.
Speaker 4:So in the beginning, it was just kids. I Actually It was supposed to be 2 cities added to my tour. I Okay. I was like, my book tour. It was
Speaker 3:On my next
Speaker 4:2 cities for these kids.
Speaker 1:Right. Right. Right.
Speaker 4:And then I'm just still doing my 51 city tour
Speaker 3:books.
Speaker 4:And what end up happening, I start getting all these requests to go to these places, and then I had to figure out that it wasn't just about, these kids are in hell. Mhmm. So that same facility that I go to that I was in Right. I go back there every year Wow. And do it for the girls certified as adults.
Speaker 1:Got you.
Speaker 4:Right? And as I'm doing that, I'm learning, working with these girls, the issues the parents have. Mhmm. So what you have to do now to we can keep rehabilitating the baby and doing this stuff, but they're going home to hell.
Speaker 1:Come on now.
Speaker 2:Yeah. What
Speaker 4:are what does it mean? Right?
Speaker 1:Thank you. Thank you.
Speaker 4:I wrote a book, what was I supposed to do? And it was about a little girl I got out of jail, and, she was pregnant. She was raped by her mom's boyfriend. She stabbed him, and she was in jail. And I met her there, and I got her out.
Speaker 4:And she I sent her to her sister. I thought we were done.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:Couple couple months later, COVID happened. She's back with mom because she said she doesn't know who her daddy is. She wanted her baby to know who his daddy was. Mhmm. Okay.
Speaker 4:I thought I did a big one.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:But I really didn't. So now it really made me really focus on, okay, what do we need to do to go from a to z? Right. Not to a to f. Right.
Speaker 1:Right. Right.
Speaker 4:And, so I've had babies. I've gotten beds. Mhmm. I've learned, like you said, Muslims, FOI will come fumigate houses as long as you, will let in turn, let them tell you their word. Right?
Speaker 4:So I start partnering with local organizations like that in different communities. I'm like, okay. I need this house fumigated. I need to get a bed for this family. I need to get this for them.
Speaker 2:And FYI, they're coming strong too.
Speaker 4:Yeah. They do. They do.
Speaker 2:Protect. One thing I give about them, Muslim, Christian, and man. But one thing about the organization, they get respect.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And they'll come in, and you might be in the area where it's Hood. It might be if they coming through, everybody move out the way. Right. They're not playing with the FOI. Right.
Speaker 2:No shape, form, or fashion. They get it done. So, yeah, you that wasn't that wasn't a bad deal right there to pop you know,
Speaker 4:to Yeah.
Speaker 2:To partner with them.
Speaker 4:And so I've learned what organizations in different cities that will help because we don't have the funding for it. So what can I do to help? And that's what I've done. And then going forward, how human trafficking became such a big part of us is because I've had babies who were trafficked, and then the system gets them. But now everybody who have touched that child are now brought into the infrastructure how we're gonna get that baby straight.
Speaker 4:So I had a 10 year old in Chicago that was at my event, didn't even know, and she was trafficked 4 times. Oh my goodness. And so we times. Mhmm. And she was going home.
Speaker 4:So that's the
Speaker 2:new traffic. Years old. All because she was
Speaker 1:going home and getting traffic again and go home and getting traffic.
Speaker 4:Yeah. That's the new traffic in. They'll give the kids drugs. They'll give them, like, they'll walk home. They'll give them things, and then they'll say, you you owe me this so I don't tell your mom.
Speaker 4:And so now they got these kids, and a little girl and a little boy is actually worth than a 18 year old woman. So we she's going home. They're doing whatever to her and bringing her back home. So,
Speaker 2:That's crazy.
Speaker 4:We I got a hotel shut down, and we just is that where my Protect Black Girls movement started? And so now it's just so crazy. People call me in in crazy situations, and I don't I don't know. I just come in, and I just use my lingo. And we I just got a baby rescued.
Speaker 4:She was, traffic from a bus stop. They got her from a bus stop.
Speaker 2:How how old was she?
Speaker 4:She was 17. And it was a guy. She she was starting college. She she graduated early, and she was starting college at 17. And the guy was grooming her from the school because he's watching her catching all these buses.
Speaker 4:So now he's catching the buses with her. Hey.
Speaker 2:Yeah. Doing research, talking to
Speaker 3:her.
Speaker 4:Yes. And told her he was he was, 19. He was 27.
Speaker 2:Mhmm.
Speaker 4:And he had a whole bunch of girls in the house. And
Speaker 2:I've time
Speaker 4:he got into the house.
Speaker 2:That's why I tell Aaliyah. My my my daughter's freshman college. I'd be like, you guys from here, I need to know where you're going. I need to you gotta be careful because these kids, they get a sense of, invisibility for for some reason. Oh, I mean, it's supposed to be nice in college, and nobody's gonna know my you're the main ones they come after.
Speaker 1:Yeah. Right.
Speaker 2:And my daughter's 63. Beautiful. You can sing. Mhmm. I'm like, they're coming after you.
Speaker 2:Oh, no. I'm like, trust me. You gotta be careful. No can't don't come to my dorm. They should know where you live at.
Speaker 2:They don't know what building you in. Right. Because it's it these people watch and they they wait for the white moment all of a sudden. Go on. Take a minute, and she's out of here.
Speaker 2:So I'm always very, like, protective of her and try to inform her that this world is a very cruel world. Mhmm.
Speaker 4:But it doesn't even matter if they're beautiful because they take heavyset girls. There was a baby who was trafficked. She was working at McDonald's. She was a heavyset girl that in the window. Right.
Speaker 4:And tell her that, oh, I heard you play music. You can come meet me here. We're gonna
Speaker 1:Oh, man.
Speaker 4:There's we have this music whatever whatever, and they had her. I wanna ride along here in Atlanta with, the human trafficking unit and just showing these girls on the track and then also where they getting them from. And so it it doesn't really matter at this point. It's off of the the amount of girls. It
Speaker 2:is and it's
Speaker 4:not a book anymore. It's not a and in boys. Boys are worth more than girls.
Speaker 1:So doctor Mitchell, you're, like, in the streets doing these things.
Speaker 4:Mhmm.
Speaker 1:I'm not gonna say by yourself, but
Speaker 4:No. It's not by myself.
Speaker 1:Right. But you're in you know how you can have an organization and you let the organization do the work? You do the work. Yeah. You know?
Speaker 1:I read your bio and everything. You do the work, and I've sent you in that event that I first met you at. Mhmm. How do you get the strength and the courage and the the wisdom and, like, how do you get it? And what's what's certain tips that you could give to people out there to prevent their babies from getting in traffic?
Speaker 1:Because they might need to hear something from you because you you know exactly what it takes, and you've been seeing it face to face.
Speaker 4:I think I do the work because, number 1, I started off. I didn't have any funding. Mhmm. And we still with the amount of girls we have, we're still limited funding. Right?
Speaker 1:Got you.
Speaker 4:So I I do the work because most of the people that work for us all the people that work for us is volunteers unless we have a stipend for something. Right?
Speaker 1:Got you.
Speaker 4:So how can I ask you to work and do anything for me if I'm not working that hard myself? Right. And I think
Speaker 2:Lead by example.
Speaker 4:Exactly. And I think my team respect me because they've seen me doing this radiation. They've seen me doing this coming out the hospital. They see I will call them. I'll call my leadership.
Speaker 4:I'm like, hey, y'all. I don't feel good. Can y'all help me do x y z? Right? And so that's how you get the work done, I think, on that side.
Speaker 4:So the kids I have worked with so many organizations, I'm a leave nameless, that I see they have this spearhead, but they're not doing any work. The kids don't see them. They, they may come in, do a photo op, and leave. I never want my kids to feel like that.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:So, like, even after my last fashion show, they were I was getting on their nerves. They're like, just have a seat. I'm like, no. These babies wanna take a picture. I'm standing till the last one.
Speaker 1:Come on now.
Speaker 4:Take a picture. Right?
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 4:And so, I think me being there when we go to camp, I'm there. Mhmm. I'm not there is because it's a paid engagement that took me long time ago. But I'm there with them. I I'm there.
Speaker 4:If you call me and say they have no recital, it I'll try to be there. If I'm in town and in these cities, I've flown out of town and took a baby to prom homecoming.
Speaker 1:Oh, man.
Speaker 4:Bought her dress and stuff. Right? Mhmm. So I think when you do that though, that's where that safety come in.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:And that's when they'll tell me things that they won't necessarily tell their parents. Right. Now I act as a liaison to talk to you about your baby.
Speaker 1:Come on now.
Speaker 4:And we figure out as a community how to fix it.
Speaker 1:Come on.
Speaker 4:So that goes into health prevention. It's so sad how many locations on I have an Android and iPhone.
Speaker 1:Gotcha.
Speaker 4:How many locations of kids I have that the parents don't have. So the last baby that I was speaking about who's 17, I tracked her. Mom cut to call me. So I'm like, okay. So I'm talking to the guy.
Speaker 4:Well, he's I'm texting the guy because I called first. He didn't answer. And she answered the phone at class for me, so I knew it was a problem.
Speaker 1:Right. Right.
Speaker 4:Right. And now he text me, you know, that automated message back, and then he stops sharing the locations with me. The same time I got my daughter walking mom through how to, like, look through her iPad, get because I got I got the location, but I wanna confirm it's the same location on her iPad.
Speaker 1:Got you. Right.
Speaker 4:So I'm doing all this, right, while I'm trying to coordinate with the police, walking mom through everything. So I think the biggest piece of advice I would tell any parent on prevention is downloading Life 360 and having your kid's location.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 4:I hear so many people say, well, I don't want my kids' location. I think that's a Chris. Whatever.
Speaker 3:Or I
Speaker 4:don't want my kids to know where I'm at. Blah blah blah. No. My grown children track me, Joe, right now.
Speaker 1:Right. Right.
Speaker 4:And so that right there was the one piece of information we had to get her. And then the police, when they got there, they didn't even go inside. They knocked on the door. The people said she wasn't in there, but I was like, her phone is in there, bro. Mhmm.
Speaker 4:So I was like, she's in if she's not in there, her phone's in there.
Speaker 1:There you go. Right. Right.
Speaker 4:They didn't even go inside. So I had the parents doing the police report. So this is another tip. If something happens and your child is tracked and that phone or whatever is there and the police is not going in, you stay on-site and do the police report because what usually happens is they'll move the kid. Once you leave, that's their moment to move the kid.
Speaker 4:Right. So they were sitting there waiting for them to move, and they're tripping now that they're still out here a hour later doing this police report on-site.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:So that's how he tripped up, sent one of the other girls outside.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:And she messed up, and she was like, she's in the house.
Speaker 3:Mhmm.
Speaker 4:So just those little things of knowing because the police sometimes because of us
Speaker 2:Mhmm.
Speaker 4:They over sexualize, overcriminalize our kids
Speaker 3:in the
Speaker 4:first place. Yep. Right? And then, because a 10 year old, when she was kidnapped well, she wasn't kidnapped. When she was raped one of the times, she they were at a motel.
Speaker 4:Mhmm. And the motels, made, called me, And the motel's, maid called Mhmm.
Speaker 3:And
Speaker 4:said this doesn't look right. The police came, took her home, and let that 44 year old man go. I don't care how built this body is on a 10 year old. You would know what 10 year old is a 10 year old.
Speaker 1:Come on
Speaker 4:now. So but that's again. They over sexualize and criminalize our kids. So always knowing your kid's location, always knowing what you say to the police, always keeping calm because mom was starting to get irate. Right?
Speaker 4:But I had to stay calm.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:You know? And keeping your cool because sometimes that blows you off.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:You know?
Speaker 2:Yeah. Because they they tune you
Speaker 4:out. Exactly.
Speaker 2:They tune you out.
Speaker 4:And and standing for
Speaker 2:Now you know the African American that don't know how to act Yes. According to them. Yeah. So you got that's when you gotta be like, hey. Cool head always prevails.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:Yes.
Speaker 2:You got you got even though it's not a moment to be cool, but he has to be cool. Right.
Speaker 4:Because that's why I was like, King, listen. Okay. I had to write down run down all the accolades, bro. I am a part of all these things. Okay.
Speaker 4:I am her mentor, and I tracked her phone here.
Speaker 1:Wow.
Speaker 4:What are can we look for the phone then?
Speaker 1:Right. Right. Look
Speaker 4:for the phone. You go to the back of the house then. You know?
Speaker 2:Can you
Speaker 4:go, let's figure this out. Can we look for the phone? And then Right.
Speaker 1:Do your job.
Speaker 4:We had to like, you have to coach them. Right? So once she came out, when she runs out, they now they be
Speaker 1:ran out?
Speaker 4:Yeah. So the little girl says she's in the house, so they're watching from the window.
Speaker 1:Got
Speaker 4:you. The baby runs out.
Speaker 1:Oh, wow.
Speaker 4:She's naked, and she runs out. And the man is going out the back of the house. So, and that's when now there's Rambo and snatching them. No, homie. Keep the same energy you had.
Speaker 1:Right. I
Speaker 4:was so hot. But it was the fact that the matter, this is what they do to us. And that was real time. So we had our fashion show. She came from Chicago.
Speaker 2:Right. And I
Speaker 4:was like, it was a fundraiser. This is why we we need your help.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:She's right here.
Speaker 2:Right. Right.
Speaker 4:I'm not making this up. This baby is right here.
Speaker 1:Was that the toy young lady that was there? Mhmm. Yeah. Yeah. I've seen it when I was at the, the event.
Speaker 1:Mhmm. Oh my goodness. You did a great job with that, man. And she's so so cool. All of them are so cool.
Speaker 4:They're very poised.
Speaker 1:Yes. Very. It's like you it's like you got them in a school or something
Speaker 2:like that. And they They're poised because they they've been forced to mature faster than they ate. Right.
Speaker 4:Well, not necessarily all my kids. So some of my kids are in that situation. But even though they're mature, that doesn't necessarily mean that they're poised. Right. You have to teach them that.
Speaker 4:And I show them, this is how I move. I'm hood. I I know how to turn up. I could do all that. But at the same time, when I come in, this is how doctor Nicholas
Speaker 1:Come on now.
Speaker 4:Sits. This is how doctor Nicholas speak. So you wanna be like me. I want y'all be better than me. I want you to take care of me.
Speaker 4:Right. So how you gonna do that? Right? So now they'll come in, and I make them greet people. Look at the person in your eye.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 3:You know
Speaker 4:what I'm saying? Yeah. You know, let's let's figure this out.
Speaker 2:From handshake.
Speaker 4:Exactly. Exactly. And this, you have to lead by example.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:But I give them real because I'll be like, okay. London, introduce me to him. Tell him who I am.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:She'll be like, looking at me like, lady. But I do it, and she will do it. Right? And that's what it is. That's just what it is.
Speaker 4:It's just teaching them
Speaker 1:There you go.
Speaker 4:The power of this microphone.
Speaker 2:Right now. And you should be proud of that.
Speaker 1:Yeah. Mhmm.
Speaker 2:You know, you have you you just done what you've done for a reason.
Speaker 3:Mhmm.
Speaker 2:I've accomplished what you so there's nothing wrong with letting anybody know what it is because that's that's when they would pay more attention that way. Mhmm. That's yeah. I get it.
Speaker 1:So do the girls, do you guys also provide, let's say, scholarships or they wanna get into a certain career, do y'all all put them in, resources? Yeah. Like, resource and stuff like that to help them get to that particular career and stuff like that?
Speaker 4:So I don't have funding for scholarships
Speaker 1:Got you.
Speaker 4:Per se, but I do have a a vast plethora of contacts.
Speaker 1:Got you.
Speaker 4:So if I've gotten girls speaking at the Steven Harvey Foundation event every year, they're getting paid.
Speaker 1:Gotcha.
Speaker 4:I've gotten girls. Like, people usually come if they need a kid. They usually come to me because they know my girls are already there.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 4:I have a business girl.
Speaker 1:Picture that.
Speaker 4:Right? So if I may have a baby and say they wanna write a book, I'm a help them publish a book. I'm a help them teach them how to, create this business from this. Right? I've helped babies, start doll lines.
Speaker 4:I have a, I help help baby grow their their funding. I just always just introduce and connect the dots. So resources per se do I have no, but I use my network. So I always tell them your network is your network.
Speaker 1:Come on now.
Speaker 4:And so I always say that that surround me are doing amazing things, and that's what I connect them with.
Speaker 1:So, let me ask let me ask another question.
Speaker 3:Mhmm.
Speaker 1:So do the now when you go to different cities, right, I noticed you got, like, a lot of states and cities that you you deal with. I know a lot. So do you deal with every single city in the United States or a high crime or high whatever? So how far is your arm per se? Like, California, Chicago
Speaker 4:cities.
Speaker 1:28 cities.
Speaker 4:Lucia, Nigeria
Speaker 1:Saint Lucia. Uh-huh.
Speaker 4:Vegas
Speaker 1:Vegas.
Speaker 4:Chicago, New York, Jacksonville, Detroit, Indianapolis.
Speaker 1:On and on.
Speaker 4:So it's whoever bring us in. We we look new, we just did Long Island. Who else? Jersey, Philly, whoever we got a location, a sponsor.
Speaker 1:So how could you guys get fun to select? Let's say we want to get funding to it. Do you have, like, a of course, you have one, like, a social media or social media websites or QR codes and all kind of stuff, and you got all that good stuff. Right?
Speaker 4:So if you go to girls who brunch tour dot com, click on the top right button. You'll see a button that says donate today. You can donate financially. You can donate monthly. You could donate the in anonymously if you don't wanna do that.
Speaker 4:We're connected with every major funder, donation app, like Benevity, Global Giving, things like that. A lot of companies like, Wells Fargo, Walmart, people like that would do company matches through those sites. You can donate that way. Also, we donation can be just volunteering it in because in we are in 28 cities nationwide, worldwide. We always need volunteers.
Speaker 4:So, we need volunteers who are speakers, and we need volunteers who are day of service providers for the girls. We always need food donations. We always need bad, donations. I have a period poverty campaign.
Speaker 2:Mhmm.
Speaker 4:Because in a lot of these areas, these girls don't even have pads to take home. So in every city we go to,
Speaker 2:they need to be bag or something like that. Right?
Speaker 4:Yes. With wipes, panty wipes, it's the full the full thing because sometimes the parents don't even give have that for them. Right? So they get hygiene supplies. L'Oreal Paris provides product.
Speaker 4:We've got stuff from Cantu. Just anything that a girl would just need regularly, we give that to them.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:So we we know donation is too small.
Speaker 2:Mhmm.
Speaker 4:You can go on Amazon, Walmart. We're on every major site for donation.
Speaker 1:Good. Wow. That's awesome.
Speaker 2:No. I mean, I'm I'm impressed. I mean, I I love I love stuff like this. Because I I come from similar stuff. So Mhmm.
Speaker 2:And and I love the underdog to be able to overcome.
Speaker 1:Can I add to that?
Speaker 4:So I was the underdog.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 4:And so I believe in all the underdogs. So if they're shy, they don't wanna talk. I'm a teach them how to talk. Mhmm. If they, if they were bad, I'm a get them on track so they can show somebody.
Speaker 4:Because it's it's an honor for me to go back home to Vegas, and I am like a hometown hero. I've gotten every award. I've spoken at every I did so many keynotes in Vegas this year. It was it's crazy. Right?
Speaker 2:Yeah. You almost you almost be like, okay now.
Speaker 4:Yeah. Like, I did 3 in Vegas in 1 month.
Speaker 2:Oh. So And You see so you live you still live in LA?
Speaker 4:No. I was I flew 9 times in two and a half weeks, but 3 of those times in Las Vegas.
Speaker 2:Oh, because a friend of mine lives in Vegas. I was down there. Remember Soul For Real?
Speaker 5:Yes.
Speaker 2:Brian Tall One. Yeah. They have a restaurant now.
Speaker 4:Which one?
Speaker 2:It's it's a name. It's it's a Caribbean restaurant called it's it's his grandmother's name. I saw it as c, I think. Okay. He's tall and and and he's short.
Speaker 2:They're both the chefs. Brian's a tall one from Soul For Real.
Speaker 4:Okay. Now I would have to know the name of the Yeah.
Speaker 2:I'll give the name. I'll I'll give it to you. But
Speaker 4:My entire family is majority of my family is in Vegas.
Speaker 2:Right. So yeah. Because I I have a a few friends that I play ball with that live in Vegas. Right.
Speaker 3:Mhmm.
Speaker 2:And Jamelle has bought a house in Vegas. Jamelle? I remember that. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 2:So I'm a be going out there a lot, but now Vegas Vegas is different.
Speaker 1:Mhmm. It's Vegas is different.
Speaker 4:So different. And we do Vegas in August. I usually have, like, 500 girls Wow. There.
Speaker 2:So what you so you do you do an event? You go a hotel and all kind of stuff?
Speaker 4:No. We go to, like, a community center like this, and we drape it black linen. What you've seen is what we do in a
Speaker 1:Big time is, like, top of the line stuff. When I went, it was it was a Alpharetta?
Speaker 4:Yeah. That was a empty medical tower. I built that out.
Speaker 1:Are you serious?
Speaker 4:I designed that and built it out.
Speaker 1:Bro, look professional. Like, everything's like You
Speaker 2:didn't invite me, so I don't know. Okay. You ain't say I do. You wanna cum? None of that stuff.
Speaker 2:It's for reason.
Speaker 1:I don't want you to come in. Next time. Next time.
Speaker 4:But we'll come into a space like this and break it and just restructure it. Just backdrops 20 foot, 10 foot red carpets.
Speaker 1:Everything. All kind
Speaker 4:of things and You
Speaker 3:wouldn't you
Speaker 2:wouldn't even recognize the building?
Speaker 1:No. No.
Speaker 2:That's dope.
Speaker 1:And the whole team is like when I was there, the whole team, they participate. You had the DJ. Mhmm. That host, she was so amazing. I forgot her name.
Speaker 1:I follow her. Yeah. Oh my, she's so funny. Then the lady with the spoken word
Speaker 3:Mhmm.
Speaker 1:Or her spirit is like you know what I'm saying? Infectious. Yes. And you have so much people in that young lady who saw Cali of you. She gave you that accolade.
Speaker 1:She spoke for, like, a hour to describe her for a whole hour.
Speaker 2:That's too long.
Speaker 4:That you know, Zane sex chronicles?
Speaker 1:The Oh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Zane. Seriously?
Speaker 4:That was Zane.
Speaker 2:That was Zane. Yeah. Mhmm.
Speaker 1:That was that was Zane?
Speaker 4:That was Zane.
Speaker 1:Yo. She amazing, yo.
Speaker 2:Oh, yeah. You you know Yeah.
Speaker 1:You know Zane? Yeah. I used to listen to Zane a lot.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah. And so this
Speaker 4:is Zayn's amazing.
Speaker 1:Yes. Yep. So the the the the people that's there and I seen, I just felt the vibe. And I was like, wow. This is like Family.
Speaker 1:And yeah. It's like family. And everybody was so nice. It was so nice to me and stuff like that. And it was just so cool.
Speaker 1:It's like, you just wanna give as much as you can give to help whoever needs the help. Mhmm. And the way how you have all the way how you have the people doing their thing and the event and everything was, like, top notch. You you wanna be a part of it, you know, the way how you got it. And everybody show you so much love, because when you came up there, it was like, man, that's the lady right there.
Speaker 1:I felt like I was, like, in a in a palace. You know? And I was like, wow. She's so cool, man. I'm I was sitting in the front just just chilling, and I seen London doing her thing.
Speaker 1:She was so pretty doing her stuff. You know? And you made the ladies you made the young ladies feel so good, you know, and powerful and just it's just so cool. And everything was respectful because I noticed you team up with
Speaker 4:Celebrities.
Speaker 1:Clothing clothing people, celebrities, a lot of a lot of different people. And I'm like, wow. Even I could learn from this. Okay. How could I be a part of this to help everybody else here?
Speaker 1:Like, how could we help you? Because you need a lot of help because you you put in a lot of work.
Speaker 4:And A fun fact.
Speaker 1:Oof. Let me hear it.
Speaker 4:My face was swollen. I had a abscess. I had emergency surgery. I went to the emergency room the next day. I was crying.
Speaker 4:I didn't wanna come out. And I had to put on a face to come out. My face looked like the elephant man, so they had, like, pulled my hair over my face. It was a lot, but I still showed up.
Speaker 1:I never know.
Speaker 4:And I wanted the kids to see even though I don't care how bad
Speaker 1:you feel.
Speaker 4:We gonna come out and show up. Right?
Speaker 1:Come on.
Speaker 4:And you would not have known that I felt like that. Right? That's why they were stalling a little bit
Speaker 1:because I
Speaker 4:had to I was crying. I had to get that together. Yeah. And so, so that's a fun fact. But help I mean, we got ballplayers.
Speaker 4:We got, you know, girls who do all kind of things. We I tried like I said, we just did the thing for Chase yesterday. That's a financial literacy card. I have no problem doing smaller things like that. We have Girls Who Want A Podcast.
Speaker 4:We have a podcast team that has flown to multiple cities Mhmm. And just teaching the girls how to podcast right there in the middle of the event. So, I mean, there's so many different ways that people can help. Financial is always good, but I believe in relationship building.
Speaker 3:Come on now.
Speaker 4:And I think that if we can see how we can grow together
Speaker 2:Makes sense.
Speaker 4:Then if that's because people always ask me, like, even with that that whole production, I spent 2,000 dollars.
Speaker 1:No. No. You didn't.
Speaker 4:You 2020 No.
Speaker 1:It look like $20,000. Yeah.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Maybe more.
Speaker 4:You did what? Maybe 25100. What? I fed I fed the girls, the models, 3 times that day. I fed them for rehearsals.
Speaker 4:I fed them for the yeah. So we adding on the food and stuff. Everybody got VIP bags. The girls, the volunteers got bags. But I built that out, but that was all relationship building.
Speaker 4:My drapery, I I help Nice. Because people come to my events, and they see. They're like, oh my gosh. Nick Lipkin, now I got a production company.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:So I'll be like, okay. You want you want people to interview? I'll say, hey. You guys available? Whatever.
Speaker 4:So now I'm I'm putting you in position.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:My drapers, my decorators. Okay. This is this is what it is. I'm putting them in position. The balloon artist, I'm putting them in position.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:The photographers, I had 7 in house photographers.
Speaker 1:They was professional doing their thing.
Speaker 4:But they're real professionals.
Speaker 1:I could tell, boy. I was like, yo. Top notch.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Top notch.
Speaker 4:Outside of the regular media that was there. Oof. But that's because they know from there, they're going to be booked for something else. Come on now. So I think that's the reason what make Girls Who Brunch stand out because and like you said, everybody is nice.
Speaker 4:I'm nice.
Speaker 1:It trickles down.
Speaker 4:So if there is ego
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:Charlie told me today, she was like, she love how I will pull somebody to the side. They said Abdul was rude. I ain't gonna talk to you about it for everybody, but I'm like, hey, homie. Like Right.
Speaker 1:Right. Right.
Speaker 2:And and and me.
Speaker 1:Right. Right. Right. Right.
Speaker 2:I'm the same way.
Speaker 4:Yeah. I'm like, hey. I need I
Speaker 2:told Shane about it, Shane. I gotta holler at your boy.
Speaker 1:Yeah. I
Speaker 2:was like, you have to be.
Speaker 1:Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 2:You have to be.
Speaker 4:Yeah. And maybe you can't be at the front. Now you in the kitchen.
Speaker 1:Right. Right.
Speaker 4:You know? Now we're gonna have to you're gonna have to work your way back up to the front.
Speaker 1:Come on.
Speaker 4:You know? But we're not gonna fire you.
Speaker 1:Come on now.
Speaker 4:Right. We're gonna dismiss you. Out. Yeah. We're gonna figure it out.
Speaker 4:But that's the beauty. I've been doing this. We're going to year 10.
Speaker 3:Mhmm.
Speaker 4:I've lost maybe 5 people out of 80 that work with me nationwide.
Speaker 2:Wow. And we definitely gotta, we definitely gotta make sure we stay in contact and because we we have some good resources ourselves.
Speaker 1:That's a definite that's what we're gonna end it with that. We we finally talk about that. But we have a question.
Speaker 4:Yes, sir.
Speaker 1:Go right ahead, Fidel.
Speaker 5:Hey. Hey. How do you pull your community together to have, I mean, with the organization with the girls and everybody that's outside, how do you get them all to get to an event? What is the process you're using for that?
Speaker 4:So it all depends. I've been in situation that, like, we did we used to do Columbus, Georgia Thanksgiving every year. So we would get, kids from La Grange and the other places coming in. So I would get, what's those things called? Shuttle buses donated, limos donated, and get the girls there.
Speaker 4:I get I work with different community, partners. So, like, Girls Girls Inc, Girl Scouts, whomever, and they'll bring their kids. We'll offer them, 10 free tickets, you know, at first to get how many girls there. And in the beginning, I used to finance what was left over, the cost.
Speaker 5:But how do they know about the event?
Speaker 4:Oh, baby. I'm a so, originally, I'm a writer and I'm a award winning blogger. And so I know how to use social media to make sense. So when I started the move when I started the organization, before I even had the first city completed, I had 9 cities already requesting for us to come because of the marketing that I did. So I know how to use social media to make it make sense in ads.
Speaker 4:I tell people all the time, you don't have to really have a lot of resources. You just know how to work those ads. Mhmm. And and I would delegate it for just that Vegas, for Chicago. Mhmm.
Speaker 4:And then you're bringing them in, and now it's just word-of-mouth. I'm turning people away sometimes.
Speaker 2:Wow. They because you put the you put so much work in Mhmm. It work it works for itself now.
Speaker 4:And now that we're going to year 10, my goal is to have a 1000 girls in every city.
Speaker 5:Oh. So when you have a 1000 girls in every city, how do you communicate with a 1000 girls in every city? So that's what I'm trying. Do you have a community, like, a digital community?
Speaker 1:Or I
Speaker 4:have a commute so we have a digital community. We have a community chairs in every city. So that's why I said I'm not doing this alone. So in every city, there's a group of women and men, 2 to 2 to 7 per city that runs that city. So I can't be everywhere.
Speaker 4:Mhmm. You know, but what happens is we have the community the community chairs are. So if there's a kid, like I said, that need a hygiene products, they're at school. I'll say, hey, can you guys go to this school? Right?
Speaker 4:But there's a group of people in that city. Digitally, yes. We have online platform. We have a website. We also have an app.
Speaker 4:Right? And we, engage with the girls, and we do Memorial Day weekend. We have is my she dreams weekend is our fundraiser weekend. All the girls from across the country comes in. We have a day conference, and that's, like, my favorite time of the year because I'm seeing babies from Kentucky, Chicago, never met each other, just seen each other online, pictures.
Speaker 4:They took a picture with miss Nicholl. I got a black ballerina, Alicia, Chicago. They they she won a $5,000 grandbaby. When I say I got calls, these other girls acting like they was them. I was like, well, you want a friend?
Speaker 1:You want a black ballerina? Got it. I say, okay.
Speaker 4:So I love that.
Speaker 1:It's that
Speaker 4:hype, that sisterhood, that camaraderie. And then when they meet them that weekend, you wouldn't even know they didn't know them
Speaker 1:Gotcha.
Speaker 4:Each other. And when we go to camp, I bring in girls from across the country. All I gotta say is my big I call them bigs and littles. The bigs protect the littles.
Speaker 1:Mhmm.
Speaker 4:That's girls who brunch.
Speaker 1:Gotcha.
Speaker 4:They come in, arms wrapped around them. They protects them. It's like almost like a little gang. It's really crazy, but they're not bad. It's like
Speaker 3:I get
Speaker 4:it. Oh, yeah. You know, we're family.
Speaker 2:Team.
Speaker 4:Yeah. And that's just it. And I think that's the sauce that everybody don't have.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:So many people wanna have all these girls, but don't know how to connect the girls.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:Right? But you connect them by letting them to see the greatness in each other.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 4:You know?
Speaker 2:Process them.
Speaker 1:Mhmm. Cheer for every Cheer
Speaker 2:for everyone. People see you making things happen. Mhmm. Oh, y'all gonna but they they don't see what it don't what what it took to get
Speaker 1:that ball. Point I want trying to make. Right.
Speaker 2:Yes. They never see that.
Speaker 1:They never see that. And let make it you make it look easy.
Speaker 2:If I'm not if I'm if I'm on the court and I'm
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:Oh, he got drafted by the NBA. I got drafted for a reason. Yeah. I put thousands of hours in there and shoveling snow. So nobody ever and 90% of them don't even wanna go through the process
Speaker 1:No. They don't.
Speaker 2:To get to that point. So that's just what it is.
Speaker 1:So Yes, King. Since we in Atlanta
Speaker 4:Yes.
Speaker 1:Doctor Mitchell, when is your next event? Christmas is here. Do you have something that Christmas decide? I figured that. Where?
Speaker 4:We're at we have a private location. I'll give it to you. I don't never give the location out because we did that 1 year, and we had this the kids all the way down cascade. So I never give the location out. We are we have 1200 families.
Speaker 4:We are providing holiday toys too. And, we we let the parents shop.
Speaker 1:Gotcha.
Speaker 4:So if anybody wants we still need toys because we're still trying to weed out families. I'm like, because they're people that came in from that's sending me stuff from you know, our mailing list is 86,000. And but it's all over the United States, you know, wherever. So we got people in Vegas, Cali, like, oh, we need toys. So we're like so I'm like, what's your ZIP code?
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:We are still weeding out right now.
Speaker 3:Right.
Speaker 4:So if you were on that list, we are not ignoring you. We are weeding these things out right
Speaker 1:now. Right. Right. Right.
Speaker 4:But we still need toys. I'm actually gonna pick up some toys. I got an award Saturday at the city hall, and they collect the toys. And she said I need to come pick up the toys. So,
Speaker 1:That's what I'm talking about.
Speaker 4:We let the families come shop because I was that mom, that working mom Mhmm. That needed just a little help.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:So the families come in. They shop. If there's adults, products, you know anybody who's have things for the moms. Okay. Starbucks give us cups.
Speaker 4:Just people give us stuff, and they can shop. And then we have our volunteers walk behind them. So if you have 5 kids, you got 5 volunteers walking behind you with a bag. Right. And you get the minimum to a big volunteers walking
Speaker 1:behind you
Speaker 3:with
Speaker 4:a bag. Right. And you get the minimum 2 big items and one small per kid. And, then they go. We do on the step and repeat.
Speaker 4:We give them food, and they're on their way. So
Speaker 1:And they're gonna have a blast for Christmas. That's something great that they would always want because I know when I was young, Christmas is always a good day. And for those kids that go through the trauma and stuff like that they've been going through Mhmm. For you to give them a beautiful Christmas like that, they're gonna remember that for the rest of their life. Mhmm.
Speaker 3:You know? So What
Speaker 4:their parents are giving it to them. I don't want the kids to know this coming from me.
Speaker 1:Gotcha. Oh, I see. Hold see? That's even Mhmm. That's dope.
Speaker 4:That's not dope.
Speaker 2:You don't need you don't need recognition for that. You just
Speaker 4:I don't need nothing to do for nothing.
Speaker 2:The the buzz is gonna come. Yeah.
Speaker 4:That's what I tell people all the time. Like, would you you just made a statement. People don't see you shooting in the gym. Right? And my team gets on me all the time because they they want a camera behind me.
Speaker 4:Even, like, here, they want the footage. They want the footage of me walking into school with the hoodie on my head, getting his baby back in school or whatever. Right? I don't really want people to see that though because I don't want to embarrass the child.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 4:You know? But if people see that, they will understand why I get an award every week. And I hate even announcing it. Right? But it's I think it's God saying, dick Nick, it's okay.
Speaker 4:Keep going.
Speaker 1:Right. You got to. Yeah. Because people have to know they have to know because just like your name is doctor. I can't call you by your first name.
Speaker 1:You deserve that doctor part.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 1:That's why I said doctor Mitchell because you deserve that. You know? Your friends could call you whatever they wanna call you, but I know me. Mhmm. You're a queen, so I'm like, doctor.
Speaker 1:So people don't see the hard work he did just to get that Mhmm. Doctor in front of your name. You know? Yeah. So when you when you get it, you gotta not flaunt it, but you people gotta respect that.
Speaker 1:They have to know. You know? K. They don't know. It was like, people's not gonna respect you a certain way, but when they know about it, like, I'm respecting this lady right here.
Speaker 1:You know? Because you deserve that.
Speaker 2:I mean, this this not just that, but to get that title took discipline.
Speaker 1:Yeah. Come on now.
Speaker 2:To get a master's. Take discipline to finish college. Come on now. Talk. It's even harder when you take a 2, 4 2, 3, 4 years off to go back Right.
Speaker 2:And finish it. So Right.
Speaker 4:So I have 3 honorary doctorates.
Speaker 1:3?
Speaker 2:Mhmm. Dang. Yeah. Excuse
Speaker 1:me. You see this mic? I gotta drop that mic right here.
Speaker 4:So I I I I was a joke. Right? Because I used to go to school. I got my I got 2 masters. I was like, I got my both of my kids are college graduates, and I was like, bro, I'm working too hard.
Speaker 4:I I done enough work. I'm a give me an honorary doctorate. So let me say this to your your viewers. Your manifestation, your power of your tongue is for real because my manifestation game, everything that I have manifested, I have obtained. And I was sometimes I'm joking.
Speaker 4:I was like, I'm a get a doctorate. I'm a get, I said I'm a get a doctorate. What was the thing? I was the presidential lifetime achievement award. The doctorate.
Speaker 4:I got 6 presidential lifetime achievement award.
Speaker 3:6?
Speaker 4:I I said I was gonna be on Forbes. I got that. Gonna be in Black Enterprise. I said that was my 5 year plan. When I first started writing books, I got it in 2.
Speaker 1:Come on.
Speaker 4:Everything I said I was going to get. Speak into existence. And so right now, which is crazy, I don't know when this is gonna air, but we I just found out I'm I won the L'Oreal Paris award in 2019.
Speaker 2:Wow.
Speaker 4:But now I just won the Karen Fondent. She's the creator of L'Oreal Paris Woman of Worth program. I just won her Impact Award, and the press release is gonna go out on 2, in February. Right. It's going against the who's who of nonprofit leaders of my sisters
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:Right. Of 200 women I won.
Speaker 2:And Wow.
Speaker 4:The thing about that is, right, that award is one of those things that you have to, like, pay homage to yourself and put because that that award taught me to speak about me. Mhmm. But that but that award, I wanted to become a global ambassador.
Speaker 3:Mhmm.
Speaker 4:You can't become a global ambassador till you get this award.
Speaker 2:Gotcha. But now you can.
Speaker 4:So That's crazy. The 2 my 2 manifestation and we can come back about this. My 2 manifestation items right now, I wanna be a L'Oreal Paris global ambassador.
Speaker 3:Gotcha.
Speaker 4:I wanna be another Peace Prize Laureate, and I had you can't get that until you do international work. We did our 1st international service in Saint Lucia in 2020
Speaker 1:1. 2021? Yes.
Speaker 2:That's what I say. Right? Listen. Speak things into existence. Yeah.
Speaker 2:The power is is right there. Mhmm. This guy would see it. Just like we're doing this.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:It's manifestation. It's like, you do anything you want. Yeah. Everybody wanted. You have to want it.
Speaker 2:You have to put the work in.
Speaker 4:And you don't have to be amazing at it. Right? Because that's how I tell people, like, I don't think I'm the coldest thing out there. But one thing that people can't trump me for is my work ethic.
Speaker 1:Come on now.
Speaker 4:I'm a work even in fun. I'm working. I I was at, the Raiders game. Right? I'm in the presidential box.
Speaker 4:I'm in there working the room, but I just sealed the deal with MGM Grand. Right? So, like, you have to sit here and be, like you know, people are in there enjoying the game Yeah. Yeah. Talking, drinking.
Speaker 4:I'm a sip.
Speaker 1:Yeah. Someone, hey. What you do?
Speaker 3:Right. I'll
Speaker 2:be be in the networking. You kidding me?
Speaker 1:Okay. Yeah.
Speaker 4:So have to. That's what you have to do. And as a woman and as an attractive woman, sometimes it's kinda hard. That's why I tell the girls because men lead with the look. Right?
Speaker 4:And it's okay to because I used to hate to be called pretty after all the abuse I've experienced.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:But I had to learn, okay, that's a superpower.
Speaker 1:Right. Right.
Speaker 4:Bring them in with that.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 3:And
Speaker 4:then let them see how intelligent you are.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:And then secure your deal. Now you could be put in a room.
Speaker 1:I love that.
Speaker 4:Can you stay in a room?
Speaker 2:Mhmm. That that's that's the main thing. Dang. You could be anywhere. Oh, man.
Speaker 2:You could be somewhere where it it takes intelligence to recognize where you are.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:You know, you could be in
Speaker 3:a room
Speaker 2:with a little bit of everybody.
Speaker 3:Mhmm.
Speaker 2:But to be able to be in there and not be while you're in here by the others means you know what you're doing. You know what I mean? You have you have that presence about yourself. And you gotta know how to use that presence to your advantage and and work the room like you like you say you're doing.
Speaker 4:Exactly. And I think the other thing too as a leader, sometimes we forget that it's the the best leader is the person who's not only leading, but they're teaching their team to become leaders.
Speaker 1:Come on now. Yeah.
Speaker 4:So I have been putting my teams in different, like, cohorts training. I'm a partner with Microsoft. They're one of our partners. So they, had a training recently. I sent a couple of my team members there.
Speaker 4:And then because of the everything, the holidays has been hectic, but we're gonna have them do a trainer trainer.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 4:What what what did you learn from this that can be beneficial to what we're doing?
Speaker 3:Right. And I'm
Speaker 4:trying to do that in every city
Speaker 3:Mhmm.
Speaker 4:Because, like, I don't wanna be doing this forever. I wanna be like them old ladies that the white ladies that, are the nonprofit lead, the founders. And they just walk in, and they just sitting there. And I'm just that's what I wanna be. Right?
Speaker 1:Hey. The big hat and chips. Right? Yeah.
Speaker 4:And so but I can't do that if I don't put other people in position to know the in and out of this organization.
Speaker 2:And that is that you could trust to run it while you Yeah. Sit on the side for a little
Speaker 4:bit Yeah.
Speaker 2:Or or observe.
Speaker 4:Because I think a lot of times we put people in position who don't know how to be in position.
Speaker 2:Uh-huh. Yep.
Speaker 4:So we have to you can't train somebody and say, I want you to believe this.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:And they don't know what to do. Right. I'm a first generation everything. So I'm throwing the ball against the wall. Hope it's gonna stick.
Speaker 1:Got you.
Speaker 4:But now that I'm learning, it is my duty to be able to teach the people that's especially if you're volunteering. I want when somebody leave me, they can say, I got blah blah blah blah blah
Speaker 1:from her.
Speaker 2:You know
Speaker 4:what I'm saying?
Speaker 2:It's inspired. Yeah. Inspired. Yeah.
Speaker 1:I I love it. I love it. So alright. We're gonna this part of the show is called Full Court Press.
Speaker 4:Okay.
Speaker 1:We're gonna ask you some questions.
Speaker 4:Got you.
Speaker 1:And we just wanna hear your answers, alright, from your personality. So since you're Jamaican
Speaker 4:Yes.
Speaker 1:Right? I'm from the US Virgin Islands.
Speaker 3:Okay. And here
Speaker 2:we go. We're both Caribbean.
Speaker 1:He hating because we we island people. You know? He hate know. He always say that. So Kingfish or Akee and Southfish?
Speaker 4:Akee and Southfish.
Speaker 1:Broke up. Yeah. For real.
Speaker 4:Where are you from?
Speaker 1:Could die by Akee, New
Speaker 4:York. Uh-huh.
Speaker 1:He lied. He's in Jamaica.
Speaker 2:I'm funny.
Speaker 4:I see.
Speaker 2:Alright. What's the other one? Roti and Wells?
Speaker 1:Oh, the other one? Okay. Roti or doubles? Roti or doubles? Roti.
Speaker 1:Trained yet? Say Roti. She said Roti. There you go. Say something, everybody ask.
Speaker 5:Oh, no. Good.
Speaker 3:You got
Speaker 1:nothing to say now?
Speaker 3:I was saying
Speaker 1:Roti. You're saying Roti also? Alright. So, let me see. So reggae or calypso.
Speaker 4:Depending on what time of the day.
Speaker 1:Oh. Oh. That's a good response. Yeah. You know what?
Speaker 1:That's true, you know? Because I like soaker for carnival time. Mhmm.
Speaker 2:Not not not an accent come out. Don't get out of here, yo.
Speaker 3:She's been
Speaker 2:I like soaker for carnival time. Working.
Speaker 4:Keep working.
Speaker 1:That's that's my ticket. Young lady. Yep. And then it's something. Hey.
Speaker 1:That's what
Speaker 4:Yeah. Make it work.
Speaker 1:That yo. That was a big tune right there. That's Burnette playing Symantec. She know how music man, you know music. I'll do what you got.
Speaker 1:You you just did that. Look. He's
Speaker 2:Oh, Buju Bonton? Okay. But what was the other guy? That's what's supposed to go.
Speaker 1:Shabarangx. Beanie. Beanie. Beanie. Beanie or Buju?
Speaker 1:Beanie or Buju? That's a good one.
Speaker 3:That's a
Speaker 1:good one.
Speaker 4:So it's kind of the same thing as Eclipsa and reggae because you I I listen to him when he's such a thought. So he's more like Tali Khali and stuff. Right?
Speaker 1:Oh.
Speaker 4:He's very conscious. Right?
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 4:So when you want like, I tell people, like, boom, bye, bye, and
Speaker 3:then But
Speaker 4:I'm like, they gonna they they talking about killing gay people. Y'all get run
Speaker 1:into that. Like, if you can't, like, you
Speaker 4:ain't understand. Right? So I'm
Speaker 1:like Yeah.
Speaker 4:I'm like, you have to learn, like but you have to you they teach you. He's teaching you, and being is just entertainment.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:So this all depends on what mood you're in.
Speaker 2:And actually, you got to go figure. Young Boogie was different.
Speaker 4:Yeah. Right. Yes. He was. Yeah.
Speaker 4:Now He was more angry. Yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah. He was for real. Last question unless Abdul got something. We talked about everything that you're doing for the community and for other peoples. What do you do for yourself?
Speaker 4:I go get a massage
Speaker 1:Come on now.
Speaker 4:2 to 3 times a week
Speaker 2:Good. There you go.
Speaker 1:What I'm talking about.
Speaker 4:I go to a spa. I tune out. So I live by a calendar, but once I'm done, I'm done.
Speaker 1:Got you.
Speaker 4:I like to go on dates with my friends. I like to go on dates with a partner. Mhmm. I like to spend time with my children, with my granddaughter. She's 6.
Speaker 1:That's awesome.
Speaker 4:And, You don't look
Speaker 1:at the grandmother, so I don't know where she get that from. You know? She she adopted that, but it's it's a
Speaker 4:yeah. My oldest is 34.
Speaker 1:Darn. She look at she, like, 24.
Speaker 4:And my youngest is 26. And it's so hilarious because them jokers, they are the worst police officers.
Speaker 3:So you
Speaker 1:don't wanna get a stepdad? You're like, we
Speaker 4:you're not gonna let me talk to nobody? Okay. It's so funny. They're like, she okay?
Speaker 1:She's alright.
Speaker 4:But it's so cool. Right? But I like, we're going on we're going to Tennessee in the cabin
Speaker 1:Oh. For Christmas.
Speaker 4:So we leave on the 22nd right after.
Speaker 1:That's gonna be so dope. Yeah. That's gonna be so dope. I love cabin. That's gonna be so dope.
Speaker 1:Nah. Congratulations.
Speaker 4:Thank you.
Speaker 1:And, after we get off air, I wanna know about the next thing that you're doing because you don't wanna put on air where you're gonna be at. Yeah.
Speaker 4:I could give you guys a location. But the 21st, if you have signed up already, we are giving out toys. We give out toys every year. So that sign up list is open. We'll be back open the 1st January.
Speaker 1:Good.
Speaker 4:So, we I had to shut the list down. I never had this many families.
Speaker 1:Wow.
Speaker 4:So it was usually 1200 kids.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 4:Not 1200 families.
Speaker 1:Oh my goodness.
Speaker 4:So I'm like, bro.
Speaker 2:So that's, like, 1200 times 5.
Speaker 4:Yeah. For real.
Speaker 1:Yeah. Oh my goodness. So Yeah. Doctor Mitchell, I think you gave everybody your social media and the way how they could get in contact with you already early in the show. Did we do that?
Speaker 4:For Girls Who Branch Tour. Yes.
Speaker 1:Okay. We did. Right? So okay. Good.
Speaker 1:Anything that you wanna share with us before we end this?
Speaker 4:So we've been talking about the underdog. We've been talking about community. We've been talking about, you know, going after your dream, working. I believe as long as you have breath in your body, you could change your circumstance. You can be the biggest hoe on the street.
Speaker 4:You could be the biggest drug dealer. You could be the biggest pimp. If you change your life and say, got listen to God and and get on track, you can be whomever you want to be. Because look at me, I was a girl from Jamaica who did not know her mother, who who was raped, who was beaten, who survived cancer, who has 2 children that are dead. I have had everything happened to me and I'm still here.
Speaker 4:And so I really believe that your your choices create your circumstances.
Speaker 3:Mhmm.
Speaker 4:So as long as you have breath in your body, you can change it.
Speaker 1:Mhmm. Mhmm.
Speaker 2:Shut that down.
Speaker 1:Shut that down, doctor Mitchell. Thank you very much for your time today. This is amazing interview. We truly appreciate you. We will be working together soon.
Speaker 2:Yeah. But we definitely do some do some stuff together. Definitely.
Speaker 1:Thank you, guys. Next time, I'll talk about PC Sports.
Speaker 4:Thank you.
Speaker 2:Let's get this picture, y'all.
